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I tried to upload "This Time" by Dwight Yoakam, but it kept cutting me off. Oh, well. Later perhaps. I adore his vocals on that track. I adore his vocals regardless, but they're especially good on that song. Country music isn't normally my cup of tea, but I can't resist his sound - very distinct. And the lyrics? Killer. Much better than most of the fluff out there. Ugg, this song is so freakin' amazing. With the Floyd Crameresque piano and the vintage Bakersfield sound. ::sigh:: "This time is the last time that I'll ever call her name. This time is the last time that I'll ever play her game. And this time is the last time that I'll endure this pain. 'Cause this time is the last time she'll ever hurt me again."
I'm halfway through Wuthering Heights and I've come to dislike Cathy greatly. I wobble back and forth with Heathcliff. Part of me loves him and part of me is annoyed that he's so stuck on Cathy. I loose respect for him. But that's just the way the cookie crumbles and it really is needed to make him a complete character.
My favorite part thus far was the conversation between Nelly and Cathy in which Cathy was attempting to explain why she wanted to marry Edgar Linton:
"Why do you love him, Miss Cathy?"
"Nonsense, I do - that's sufficient."
"By no means; you must say why?"
"Well, because he is handsome, and pleasant to be with."
"Bad!" was my commentary.
"And because he is young and cheerful."
"Bad still."
"And because he loves me."
"Indifferent, coming there."
"And he will be rich, and I shall like to be the greatest woman of the neighborhood, and I shall be proud of having such a husband."
"Worst of all. And now, say how you love him?"
"As anybody loves - you're silly, Nelly."
"Not at all - answer."
"I love the ground under his feet, and the air over his head, and everythign he touches, and every word he says. I love all his looks, and all his actions, and him entirely and altogether. There now!"
"And why?"
"Nay; you are making a jest of it; it is exceedingly ill-natured! It's no jest to me!" said the young lady, scowling, and turning her face to the fire.
"I'm very far from jesting, Miss Catherine," I replied. "You love Mr. Edgar because he is handsome, and young, and cheerful, and rich, and loves you. The last, however, goes for nothing: you would love him without that, probably; and with it you wouldn't, unless he possessed the four former attractions."
"No, to be sure not: I should only pity him - hate him, perhaps, if he were ugly, and a clown."
"But there are several other handsome, rich young men in the world: handsomer, possibly, and richer than he is. What should hinder you from loving them?"
"If there be any, they are out of my way! I've seen none like Edgar."
"You may see some; and he won't always be handsome, and young, and may not always be rich."
"He is now; and I have only to do with the present. I wish you would speak rationally."
"Well, that settles it: if you have only to do with the present, marry Mr. Linton."
I find it funny how quickly and easily people get married. I suppose each situation is different and each relationship unique. Not to say that marriage is serious and a long-term relationship without the legal consumation is not. I find that my relationship is much more stable and enjoyable than those who are married and has lasted longer than some marriages for sure. But the high divorce rate? Probably due to the above passage. They are concerned only for the present. Then again, I'm sure not all divorces are due just to that - sometimes two people grow apart. It all seems very complicated to me, yet also very simple.
I'm halfway through Wuthering Heights and I've come to dislike Cathy greatly. I wobble back and forth with Heathcliff. Part of me loves him and part of me is annoyed that he's so stuck on Cathy. I loose respect for him. But that's just the way the cookie crumbles and it really is needed to make him a complete character.
My favorite part thus far was the conversation between Nelly and Cathy in which Cathy was attempting to explain why she wanted to marry Edgar Linton:
"Why do you love him, Miss Cathy?"
"Nonsense, I do - that's sufficient."
"By no means; you must say why?"
"Well, because he is handsome, and pleasant to be with."
"Bad!" was my commentary.
"And because he is young and cheerful."
"Bad still."
"And because he loves me."
"Indifferent, coming there."
"And he will be rich, and I shall like to be the greatest woman of the neighborhood, and I shall be proud of having such a husband."
"Worst of all. And now, say how you love him?"
"As anybody loves - you're silly, Nelly."
"Not at all - answer."
"I love the ground under his feet, and the air over his head, and everythign he touches, and every word he says. I love all his looks, and all his actions, and him entirely and altogether. There now!"
"And why?"
"Nay; you are making a jest of it; it is exceedingly ill-natured! It's no jest to me!" said the young lady, scowling, and turning her face to the fire.
"I'm very far from jesting, Miss Catherine," I replied. "You love Mr. Edgar because he is handsome, and young, and cheerful, and rich, and loves you. The last, however, goes for nothing: you would love him without that, probably; and with it you wouldn't, unless he possessed the four former attractions."
"No, to be sure not: I should only pity him - hate him, perhaps, if he were ugly, and a clown."
"But there are several other handsome, rich young men in the world: handsomer, possibly, and richer than he is. What should hinder you from loving them?"
"If there be any, they are out of my way! I've seen none like Edgar."
"You may see some; and he won't always be handsome, and young, and may not always be rich."
"He is now; and I have only to do with the present. I wish you would speak rationally."
"Well, that settles it: if you have only to do with the present, marry Mr. Linton."
I find it funny how quickly and easily people get married. I suppose each situation is different and each relationship unique. Not to say that marriage is serious and a long-term relationship without the legal consumation is not. I find that my relationship is much more stable and enjoyable than those who are married and has lasted longer than some marriages for sure. But the high divorce rate? Probably due to the above passage. They are concerned only for the present. Then again, I'm sure not all divorces are due just to that - sometimes two people grow apart. It all seems very complicated to me, yet also very simple.
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About marriage, so true, so true. And for what it's worth, I read once a sociologist's alternative view on the divorce rate: rather than lament the lack of modern couples' commitments, he suggested that it may be due more to a search for true happiness. Which may, on further thought, be saying the same thing.